Learning to wear others’ shoes

Sometimes when my partner expresses his anger, frustration he expresses his perception of the World.

Sometimes this perception can be distorted. This is ok because each ofus have our own perception of reality. Expressing  his perception says a lot about his inner state, it is a cry for help,for clarification, for moving the energy, for asking love and care.

I read that is important to speak aut when things seem distorted to me and I agree it is important. However, after you have mastered yourinner process of clarification you can go to the level of calmly and detached listening.

It is the time for me to offer space for others to express their own experience of the World. I am strong and wise enough to know that this process can offer confort and  emotional release.

We can afterwards clarify aspects, apologyze if I wronged, express or clarify my intentions. I can express anger in a loving way by expressing my frustration, my feelings, how it makes me feel.

I allow the other to know me better, to know my expectations and my needs. This allows us to connect deeper and meet each others deeper needs or at least acknowledge them.

The 5 love languages book is magic. It explains clearly and simply different languages of live. It is easier to understand the partner when we know what language of love sp

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Be the Change you Want to See

Whenever you think people are withholding from you – praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on – give it to them. You don’t have it? Act as if you have it and it will come. Then, soon after you start giving, you will start receiving. You cannot receive what you don’t give.
Erhart tolle, A New Earth

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“Setting an example is not the main means of influencing another, it is the only means.” – Albert Einstein

Seth Godin

The masses are average. And by definition, we have a surplus of average.
Don’t be different just to be different. Be different to be better.

KINDNESS IS CONTAGIOUS

Try it out, give it to someone. What is something nice that you could do for a friend, family member or even a stranger today? Once you have thought of it, do it, and then move on to somebody else. Before long you’ll start seeing results, try it, it’s contagious.

Happiness comes from spiritual wealth,
not material wealth.  Happiness comes from giving, not getting.
If we try hard, to bring happiness to others,  we cannot stop it from coming to us also.  To get joy, we must give it and to keep joy,
we must scatter it.  ~ John Templeton ~
Antonny Robbins
Never spend more than 10 percent of your time on the problem, and always spend at least 90 percent of your time on the solution.

Every successful person I know has the capacity to remain centered, clear and powerful in the midst of emotional “storms.”

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Worry less. Smile more. Accept criticism. Take responsibility. Be quiet and listen. LOVE LIFE. Embrace change.
The bend in the road is not the end of the road unless you refuse to take the turn. -Unknown
Bless your body, and it will bless you back. This is your sacred task today. – Debbie Ford
The secret of passion is knowing your daily purpose:http://bit.ly/18gr5U8

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“Social media is not about the exploitation of technology but service to community.” — Simon Mainwaring
“Don’t let so-called experts set standards for you that took decades for them to accomplish. Instead, start small and work with passion, and the profit will follow.”

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Without the #knowledge of making money, the world pushes you around
“Take a walk outside – it will serve you far more than pacing around in your mind.”
― Rasheed Ogunlaru
“Negotiation and discussion are the greatest weapons we have for promoting peace and development.” ~ Nelson Mandela at the summit of the Gulf Cooperation Council, Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates , 7 December 1998
Sting shared Rainforest Fund quote
“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him…We need not wait to see what others do.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~ Steve Jobs
“You can tell a lot about a person by carefully examining their environment. Contrary to popular belief, people are not the reflection of their environment nearly as much as we might think. Environment is a reflection of the people. Change the people for the better, and the environment will change for the better as well. Our attitude is the environment we carry with us during the day. It proclaims to the world what we think of ourselves and indicates the sort of person we have made up our minds to be. It is the person we will become. What does your attitude proclaim to the world about you today?” – Bob Proctor >> WATCH THIS VIDEO:http://ow.ly/p2jBF

If you are sabotaging your relationships, it indicates that something inside you feels you do not deserve to be in a happy loving relationship. You do deserve love, so you need to uncover the source of this false belief inside and heal it with a true awareness of your spiritual value.
You may need the assistance of a counselor or a trustworthy friend who can be completely honest with you to help you through this healing process.
Once the old sabotaging belief has been healed and replaced with a real recognition of your essential loving self, you will no longer undermine your relationships.
Think and Grow Rich
Boredom is the absence of a creative idea. But there is a simple cure – begin to think immediately of a better way to do something. The creative juices are within you but you must turn on the tap.

Those who are bored are not living; they are dying. When their heart stops beating, it will be a mere formality. The best way to do anything has never been thought of. Get on a creative improvement kick and jar others mentally into the same activity.” – Bob Proctor >> WATCH THIS VIDEO: http://ow.ly/p2jBF

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“Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life.” – Christiane Northrup
“Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” – Stephen R. Covey

Manage Yourself: your Most Important Employee

“1. Assess your strengths and weaknesses.

Once you’ve gotten an objective perspective on yourself from others, mentally stand back and ask yourself: “If I were managing this person, how would I use the strengths and work around the weaknesses?”

2. Set reasonable and stretch goals.

Have two sets of goals: a minimal set which represents what you can reasonably expect from yourself, and stretch goals that represent what’s difficult but still achievable.

In other words, the difference between what’s definitely reasonable and possibly achievable is time.

3. Stop micromanaging yourself.

However, while most people realize this, many people blithely micromanage their own activities.The cure is to think about the results you want rather than the tasks you should do.

4. Regularly evaluate performance.

If you fail to do this, and just depend upon your “gut feeling” of whether you’re performing the way you’d like, I guarantee you that you will eventually (and probably quickly) drift off course.

5. Manage your emotions.

Think of your emotions as “behaviors you do” in response to events. If you decide that you will “do” joy (i.e. enjoy) every day, you will.

6. Take responsibility for your decisions.

The flip side of decision-making, however, is taking responsibility for outcomes.While you do not have control over events, you do (and did) have control over the decisions that you made in response to those events. ” Source: Inc.com

 

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