Commit to Happiness: Bear Necessities

1.check-in, check in, recognise emotions, stay with them, it will be better, when needed distract from them in a useful way: breathing, expanding vision and clarity, creativity, walks in nature, meditation
2. Bear Necessities:
-sleep even from 8 pm to really replenish and regenerate,
-buy, cook, eat simple: rice, potatoes, lentils, chickpeas, buckweet, pasta, fruits and vegetables, nuts, seeds; some of them are long term lasting foods one should always have at home to boil. Give beans and peas a boil several hours before you actually cook them in the boiling pot;
– stay hidrated, water gives health, clarity, stamina, vitality, creativity, energy and keeps good healthy organs and tissues.
– simple creative, organised clothes, things and schedule. Yeah, it can be that simple. Simple is efficient, clever, intelligent, sophisticated, healthy, creative and honorable. Love yourself enough to trust this. Don’t explain, don’t push against those with different opinions. Simplify your life. Decluter gradually your tasks, wardrobe, your mind, breath, energy body, your expenses and studies. Keep it smart and efficient.

3. Commit to your happiness. Have daily simple bear necessities goals for daily life. Expand with simple weekly and monthly goals. Keep your eyes on the ball: the bear necessities above, being in time at work, polite but assertive, simply you, normal, efficient, humble, grateful.
4. What Do You Do Most of Your Time? What do you think about, what activities you have, how do you organise? Check in, keep it as simple as you can, keep your eyes on the ball. Have patience.
5. Be smart with your stress. Take care of your self, again! Bare necessities ensures you are rested, well fed with natural simple foods and hydrated and enjoy time in nature for optimal physical, mental and emotional balance. Pace yourself.
6. Keep low profile, do your gratitude list each morning. At evening envision forgiving others and asking for forgiveness, appreciate the good and know there are ways in which you already are appreciated. Send love and see the best and the potential in others. See them at their best and send them love.
7. Shake your stress and negativity off, meditate and walk it out, dance it out in your room. Your room as your life, body and environment and other aspects have been given to you as gifts to enjoy and make the best that you can in the moment so enjoy. Keep it short and simple and restrain from gossip, blaming, shaming, critising others or yourself. Mocking is not funny on neither parts. With reccurent negative behaviours in others, keep interactions short, seldom and keep them in good regard. Seeing others as victims leads to becoming one of them… So regard people in their pure potential and they will, when they are ready, rise up to it.
8. Become aware of feelings and communicate it in a connected way: Breath and say:”I feel this way” and really be present, vulnerable in expressing it and humble with your emotion. Open the door for the other to see the impact of their behaviour giving them a chance to connection, comprehension and humanity…

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Love Yourself

Epecially since I am visiting ADM community near Amsterdam I realize people are genius.

I start to love people more and more. Now I realise there are many ways to live and that personal respect is very important.

Sometimes is chalenging to notice my own power,beauty and potential so those around me shouldn”t fuss about it. Honestly, I had my G spot all the time with me and I just discovered it yesterday, so make your own conclusions. Who knows what else I will discover the following days…

This is why I am telling you: love yourself, care for yourself, love your art, nurture your joy and passion, connect with others.

Lovingly give others the space to express themselve and give yourself time to perceive, understand, integrate. Nurture your creativity by eating more fuits an vegetables, hydrate yourself,connect with nature, connect wih inspiring people, make some time to express and manifest your pasion.

Live your passion every day, live your life now with full awareness inside and also outside. Always keep part of your attention inside and to your body.

Learning to wear others’ shoes

Sometimes when my partner expresses his anger, frustration he expresses his perception of the World.

Sometimes this perception can be distorted. This is ok because each ofus have our own perception of reality. Expressing  his perception says a lot about his inner state, it is a cry for help,for clarification, for moving the energy, for asking love and care.

I read that is important to speak aut when things seem distorted to me and I agree it is important. However, after you have mastered yourinner process of clarification you can go to the level of calmly and detached listening.

It is the time for me to offer space for others to express their own experience of the World. I am strong and wise enough to know that this process can offer confort and  emotional release.

We can afterwards clarify aspects, apologyze if I wronged, express or clarify my intentions. I can express anger in a loving way by expressing my frustration, my feelings, how it makes me feel.

I allow the other to know me better, to know my expectations and my needs. This allows us to connect deeper and meet each others deeper needs or at least acknowledge them.

The 5 love languages book is magic. It explains clearly and simply different languages of live. It is easier to understand the partner when we know what language of love sp

Love Yourself

What does that mean?

For me loving myself is different than what I thought it is. Loving myself is all about creating a temple within myself and my life. When I think beautiful thoughts I love myself.

When I take care of my body I love myself: I do my physical exercises, I hydrate my body, I say beautiful words, I touch with gentlenes, I engage in life creatively, I honor my body, my mind, spirit, emotions.

I embrace my dark side with love and understanding. I just ease into life. I talk to my inner child to understand my fears. I go Deep into my core beliefs. Please look on youtube for Teal Swan video Core Beliefs.

I  nurture my spirit and my mind with the best inspiration. I  follow Ralph Smarts’ Infinite Waters Diving Deep Channel on youtube. I also listen regularly to inspiring insights from Louise Hay.

Life has been always supporting me but now I embrace life more. However there are moments and moments and I go through them more easily. Ralph Smart gives me power to go into action every day, Teal Swan helps me gain Deep understanding about myself and others. Louise helps me perceive life more beautiful. In total, I feel better equiped for life.

Tips to Write a Book

Create the habit. Good or bad, habits always deliver results. If you only write one page a day, in a year, you will have written 365 pages—more than enough for a book!

Find your message. There is a book inside of you. It might be a business book, a memoir, a cookbook or something funny, a how-to or how-not to, a what-for or why-not. What are you good at? What is your passion? What can you teach other people to do?

Knowing your niche will help you write the book and market it.

source: Jack Canfield

14 Things to Do Less to Get More Success and Joy in Life Now

Hello,

Today’s recommendation is ProlificLiving.com:

14 Things to Do Less to Get More Success and Joy in Life Now

1. Eat less.
2. Buy less. 
3. Watch less TV. Give your mind a chance to consume higher quality of information (and entertainment). Watch less mindless TV.

Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. ~Mary Schmich

4. Worry less. Become very aware of your worry and train yourself to do less, far far less of this. Use guided meditation to change the habit.

5. Judge less. We never, ever, have enough information to judge someone else for what they (probably) did. But the energy, the emotion, the time it takes to judge might just be better used toward that dream project you have shelved or the book you haven’t cracked open or the important stuff in your life that needs your attention. Let others be. Judge less.

6. Be busy less. Take a closer look. Be less busy.

7. Work less. That’s right. Stop handing your soul over to workaholism.

8. Be negative less. The negative thoughts in your head are killing you. Learn to identify them. The world isn’t against you. You are not unlucky or unfortunate. When you change your thoughts, you can begin to change your life.

A little kingdom I possess, where thoughts and feelings dwell; And very hard the task I find of governing it well. – Louisa May Alcott

9. Drink alcohol less. You can still feel the high of life and be sociable. Drink less alcohol and be more alert for life.

10. Compare less: Compare yourself less to anyone out there and only compare yourself to your previous self. Are you better than yesterday? Strive for better tomorrow. That’s the only way comparison serves you well. The rest just steals your joy.

11. Gossip less: This is a number one career suicide at the workplace. Lift others up in their absence as you would want them to do for you.

12. Make excuses less. Excuses are your fear speaking in the place of your power. Excuses are not the real you. Don’t put up with that. Procrastinate less and do what matters to you because you can. No excuses.

13. Have a bad attitude less. The less things went my way, the worse my attitude would get. Oh this was a hard habit to break but an essential one. Accept what happens. There’s always – ALWAYS – a silver lining. Your job is to find it.

14. Give your power away less. You have inside you the power to achieve all that you desire. Most of us go through life denying its existence or trading it for fear, for shame, for guilt or for excuses. Do less of that. A whole lot less. Believe more that there is this power inside you, hide it less and feed it more love and energy. You will meet a new you before you know it.

Read all the details at ProlificLiving.com

6 Lessons from Disney Movies

I Love You Notsalom.com

  • Basically, however you feel on the inside, you wind up acting upon  – and wanting to make others feel. So, if you’re angry on the inside – you’ll act out in anger – and wind up making others feel angry. If you feel loving on the inside –you’ll want to do loving actions – and make others feel loved.Meaning? If there’s someone who’s mean to you – a bully – you should know it’s because they feel bad inside themselves – angry inside themselves.
  • Those who have received little love will offer only what they have if they don’t cultivate good behavior and values. All those characters who are mean in Disney movies, don’t have a lot of love in their lives – and so they choose seeking power, to try to make up for lack of love. Whenever you choose power over love you will never find true happiness.
  • Bad Disney characters treat even their friends badly and consequently their friends don’t love them continuing thus the circle.
  • Thus, having little love for others or themselves, they all start to feel jealous, to talk about not loving who they are – as they are. As a result of not having love – they pursue power – to try to fill themselves up inside. But power is like junk food for the spirit. Love is like healthy food for the spirit. Power might feel tasty and good in the moment – but it will never be satisfying – never fill you up.
  • Yep, no matter how much power you get – you will always feel empty. And you look for more and more. But because power is like junk food, the more you get, the sicker you feel inside – not happier.
  • In contrast, the good characters seek love – not power. And the more love these good characters get – the more loving friends they enjoy – and loving acts they do – the happier they become – and the more self-fulfilled they feel.
  • Love is the ultimate super power. And teamwork is another super power. When you join loving forces with those you love, you can accomplish lots – like all the good characters in Disney movies get to enjoy.
  • All the bad characters in Disney movies are always jealous of something that someone else has. The evil characters never take time to find out what their “true inner power” might be ( their “true inner passion”).
  • Because these bad characters feel as if they don’t have a “true inner power” – they try to take power from others. They particularly like to take power from those who are “in their true power” – the good characters who have some special inner power (aka: a passion for singing, a passion for a special love connection, a passion for swimming, the ability to grow magical hair.)
  • In contrast, the good characters in these films take the time to fully step into their own true power – so they have no desire to take power.  The good characters are focused on following their heart’s calling (singing, swimming, spending loving time with soul mates and soul friends, going towards the light in a distant village) And when these good characters take the time to pursue their own “true inner power” (their heart’s calling) they ironically wind up tapping into an increased sense of ” inner power” –thereby increasing self love and happiness.
  • Meaning? When you follow your heart’s calling,  you wind up becoming your most powerful self.  You don’t need to take power from others if you can tap into your own inner power.
  • Power’s okay to want to – as long as you are loving in your use of it – and use your power for good not evil, to make people happy otherwise no one would benefit . As Spiderman admits, “with great power comes great responsibility. “
  • Don’t just listen to what others tell you – watch their actions: look at how they treat those around them.  If they’re mean to their  “so called friends” – then that’s a warning they might be mean to you.
  • It’s important to give people a chance to learn lessons and change their bad ways– if a mistake is made  – and someone acts badly.
  • In fact, many of the good people/mermaids/mermen in these films made mistakes. They didn’t act as their highest best self. But they all apologized for their bad behavior – looked for the lesson to be learned – and expressed wanting to grow from their mistakes. They even followed up their apology with a positive action which showed they learned their lesson – and were choosing not to do this bad behavior anymore.
  • Meaning? Even if somebody does something bad – it doesn’t necessarily mean they are forever bad. Also – even if YOU do something bad – it does not mean YOU are forever bad. Each of us can act badly at times – make mistakes –or act badly. What’s most important is to always want to learn and grow from any misbehavior.

source: Notsalom.com