Sculpt Your Own Future

208435_491000904314307_691188999_n1The wonderful thing about being a human being is that you are free to shape and sculpt your own character. You can make new choices and decisions at any time of life, especially with regard to your values, and begin acting as if you had those values already.

Perhaps the measure essence of happiness is your ability to achieve the three common goals of self-respect, self-esteem and personal pride that everyone wants. It is only when you have these three in sufficient quantities that you feel really good about yourself.

Here’s a Key Question for You
Who are the people in your life that you respect the most? Who are the
people whose respect for you is the most important? The very act of
identifying the people who you most respect, and then determining how you would need to behave to earn their respect is a turning point for many

If you respect and you associate with people with high standards, you begin to raise your standards to their level and become a better person at the same time.

Personal Pride
The second part of happiness is personal pride. Personal pride comes from
knowing you are living up to the very best that is in you. Personal pride
arises when you do an excellent job at something that has been assigned to
you, or at something that is important to you.

“Doing your best is more important than being the best.” This simple bit of
advice can change your entire attitude toward life and work.

Shakespeare wrote, “Too thine own self be true and then it must follow, as
the night the day, that thou canst not then be false to any man.”It is only when you do your very best that you know you are being completely true to yourself.

In your heart, you know that personal excellence, being a fine person in every respect, requires excellent performance in your work and at your tasks.

Self Esteem

Men and women with high self-ideals, which they refuse to
compromise, are the leaders and the role models in our societies. They
usually rise to the top of great organizations. They are our ideals of what an excellent human being can be.

Your self-image is defined as the way you see yourself and think about yourself in the present, in the “now.” How you see yourself largely determines how you perform in any situation.

Men and women with positive self-images tend to be positive, confident

One of the great breakthroughs in psychology in the 20th century is our
discovery that you can change your performance by changing your mental
pictures. In fact, all improvement in your life begins with an improvement in
the way you see yourself and think about yourself on a minute-to-minute

If you take a few moments prior to any event or situation and create a
clear mental picture of yourself performing at your best, you will always tend to perform better in that situation than if you neglected to do it.

This happens because you have a deep down feeling that you are moving toward becoming more and more like the person that you most ideally want to be. This is why it is so important to have clarity.

Your self-esteem is the most important part of your personality, and it is only when you are living up to the very best within yourself that you enjoy high self-esteem. It is only when you have high self-esteem that you are truly happy.

Write down the five qualities that are most important to you. These
can be values like love, freedom, family, success, creativity, music, service, sincerity, generosity, courage, persistence, straight-forwardness and so on.

The starting point of your becoming an outstanding human being is for you to be absolutely clear about the values that make up your own personal code, your own personal philosophy.

How can you tell what your values really are? Simple. You always express
your values in your actions and behaviors.

It is not what you say, or wish, or hope, or intend. It is only what you do that counts. It is only your actions, when you are forced to choose among options, that demonstrate what you truly believe and what your values really are.

Good values are life-enhancing. Poor values are life destroying. Let me give you an example.

A good question for you to ask is this. If your friends and associates were to be interviewed privately and asked, “What would you say his or her values really are today?’ What do you think the people around you would say about you?

Seneca, the Greek philosopher of stoicism, once wrote that, “If you desire to have a certain reputation among your fellow men, act in all respects as
though you already had the reputation that you desire.”

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

The first question is this, “What kind of a world would my world be, if
everyone in it was just like me?” The second question is, “What kind of a
country would my country be, if everyone in it was just like me?” The third
question is, “What kind of a company would my company be, if everyone in it was just like me?” And the fourth question is, “What kind of a family would my family be, if everyone in it was just like me?”

If you are being completely honest with yourself you will probably find that you have some areas where you could improve in one or more of the answers to those questions.

The most important quality in the development of human character is, and
always has been, self-discipline. This is your ability to make yourself do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.

When you make a firm, unequivocal decision, in a world of rapid change, to stand up for certain principles and values, and to never compromise them, you put yourself onto the high road to becoming an outstanding individual.

And when you become an outstanding individual, your future will be



You are Beautiful by Neale Donald Walsch


On this day of your life I believe God wants you to know…

…that you are beautiful.

Yes, you. Look at yourself in the mirror. If

God has ever created anything in the universe

more beautiful than you, it is a secret. Because

nowhere can it be found.

You are a being of beauty. Share the beauty

of you today, and you will experience it!

Love, Your Friend….Neale Donald Walsch

Emotional Independence



1. Being too controlling and stressed

Women get to the extremes of emotional independence when they become control-freaks. This makes them overly masculine and assertive. This quality isn’t feminine and thus it’s not attractive for a woman to have.

Usually women who are controlling are not aware of how they look to the outside world but it clearly shows on their faces. When I see women like that I remark in my mind “Take it easy” as they look so in need of good relaxation!

I don’t usually see Asian women like that; it’s the disease of the US mainly, as well as UK and some other European countries. Women as such need to understand that this stress and control is unnecessary.

Do your best and Let God control things for you whilst you relax and watch events taking place smoothly and for the goodness of all. It works perfectly. The Universal Intelligence knows what’s best for you and it loves you unconditionally. Give it a chance to control things for you.

2. Giving up the world to serve another

I can’t count how many bitter women I met over my life who kept reflecting back onto how much they did for someone only to be let down, and how angry and unhappy they are because of this.

That looks like a nice thing to do, serving other, but renouncing it all for another it’s harmful. Each one of us is an independent being with our own issues to solve and goals to achieve. Let’s not sacrifice the lessons we came to this earth to learn for serving some individual.

Both Women and Man can get caught up

There are different emotional independence issues men and women have to tackle. For men it’s usually storing emotions inside that get them out of balance, whilst women sometimes become control-freaks or invest too much of their lives into a relationship.

Both men and women can experience other emotional independence issues such as becoming too much emotionally attached to a celebrity, becoming a cult slave or not being able to live independent life from the family.

All these emotional independence issues must be solved for the human being to feel happy and healthy. It’s natural and healthy to rely on yourself and feel strength when the chaos prevails outside. You can achieve such a state by developing your emotional independence.

The thing is, the other person doesn’t have to appreciate your efforts. You should understand that you should live for yourself and not for others. You need to learn why you’re here on earth and direct your energies to realize yourself and help support others not become enslaved by this.

It’s the devotional nature of women that’s to blame for so many wasted lives, and I think it was installed in us from the patriarchal societies and not by God. We are just recovering from the male rule, so it makes sense that some mental relics are still there.

Life’s way to being Fair, Open Your Eyes

On this day of your life, I believe God wants you to know…

…that fairness is not obvious in every case.

Look, we all want life to be fair, right? But

sometimes it just isn’t. True? No. False. Life

is always fair — it sometimes just does not

look that way.

You will see how ‘fair’ life is if you will give

it a chance to play itself out. Wait. See.

Your Higher Self, which always wants the

best for you, is in charge here. Believe it.

Love, Your Friend….Neale Donald Walsch


Rebuilding Trust

Counselor Link Jim Hutt

On this day of your life I believe God wants you to know…

…that your trust has not been misplaced.

Listen to your Self today. You have been telling

yourself something very important for days now.

Today, listen more closely. And heed.

Trust the still, small voice within. Your soul is

gently leading you to your next step.

Love, Your Friend….Neale Donald Walsch

photo: Jim Hutt – Counselor Link