Love Yourself

Epecially since I am visiting ADM community near Amsterdam I realize people are genius.

I start to love people more and more. Now I realise there are many ways to live and that personal respect is very important.

Sometimes is chalenging to notice my own power,beauty and potential so those around me shouldn”t fuss about it. Honestly, I had my G spot all the time with me and I just discovered it yesterday, so make your own conclusions. Who knows what else I will discover the following days…

This is why I am telling you: love yourself, care for yourself, love your art, nurture your joy and passion, connect with others.

Lovingly give others the space to express themselve and give yourself time to perceive, understand, integrate. Nurture your creativity by eating more fuits an vegetables, hydrate yourself,connect with nature, connect wih inspiring people, make some time to express and manifest your pasion.

Live your passion every day, live your life now with full awareness inside and also outside. Always keep part of your attention inside and to your body.

Learning to wear others’ shoes

Sometimes when my partner expresses his anger, frustration he expresses his perception of the World.

Sometimes this perception can be distorted. This is ok because each ofus have our own perception of reality. Expressing  his perception says a lot about his inner state, it is a cry for help,for clarification, for moving the energy, for asking love and care.

I read that is important to speak aut when things seem distorted to me and I agree it is important. However, after you have mastered yourinner process of clarification you can go to the level of calmly and detached listening.

It is the time for me to offer space for others to express their own experience of the World. I am strong and wise enough to know that this process can offer confort and  emotional release.

We can afterwards clarify aspects, apologyze if I wronged, express or clarify my intentions. I can express anger in a loving way by expressing my frustration, my feelings, how it makes me feel.

I allow the other to know me better, to know my expectations and my needs. This allows us to connect deeper and meet each others deeper needs or at least acknowledge them.

The 5 love languages book is magic. It explains clearly and simply different languages of live. It is easier to understand the partner when we know what language of love sp

Love Yourself

What does that mean?

For me loving myself is different than what I thought it is. Loving myself is all about creating a temple within myself and my life. When I think beautiful thoughts I love myself.

When I take care of my body I love myself: I do my physical exercises, I hydrate my body, I say beautiful words, I touch with gentlenes, I engage in life creatively, I honor my body, my mind, spirit, emotions.

I embrace my dark side with love and understanding. I just ease into life. I talk to my inner child to understand my fears. I go Deep into my core beliefs. Please look on youtube for Teal Swan video Core Beliefs.

I  nurture my spirit and my mind with the best inspiration. I  follow Ralph Smarts’ Infinite Waters Diving Deep Channel on youtube. I also listen regularly to inspiring insights from Louise Hay.

Life has been always supporting me but now I embrace life more. However there are moments and moments and I go through them more easily. Ralph Smart gives me power to go into action every day, Teal Swan helps me gain Deep understanding about myself and others. Louise helps me perceive life more beautiful. In total, I feel better equiped for life.

Tips to Write a Book

Create the habit. Good or bad, habits always deliver results. If you only write one page a day, in a year, you will have written 365 pages—more than enough for a book!

Find your message. There is a book inside of you. It might be a business book, a memoir, a cookbook or something funny, a how-to or how-not to, a what-for or why-not. What are you good at? What is your passion? What can you teach other people to do?

Knowing your niche will help you write the book and market it.

source: Jack Canfield

14 Things to Do Less to Get More Success and Joy in Life Now


Today’s recommendation is

14 Things to Do Less to Get More Success and Joy in Life Now

1. Eat less.
2. Buy less. 
3. Watch less TV. Give your mind a chance to consume higher quality of information (and entertainment). Watch less mindless TV.

Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. ~Mary Schmich

4. Worry less. Become very aware of your worry and train yourself to do less, far far less of this. Use guided meditation to change the habit.

5. Judge less. We never, ever, have enough information to judge someone else for what they (probably) did. But the energy, the emotion, the time it takes to judge might just be better used toward that dream project you have shelved or the book you haven’t cracked open or the important stuff in your life that needs your attention. Let others be. Judge less.

6. Be busy less. Take a closer look. Be less busy.

7. Work less. That’s right. Stop handing your soul over to workaholism.

8. Be negative less. The negative thoughts in your head are killing you. Learn to identify them. The world isn’t against you. You are not unlucky or unfortunate. When you change your thoughts, you can begin to change your life.

A little kingdom I possess, where thoughts and feelings dwell; And very hard the task I find of governing it well. – Louisa May Alcott

9. Drink alcohol less. You can still feel the high of life and be sociable. Drink less alcohol and be more alert for life.

10. Compare less: Compare yourself less to anyone out there and only compare yourself to your previous self. Are you better than yesterday? Strive for better tomorrow. That’s the only way comparison serves you well. The rest just steals your joy.

11. Gossip less: This is a number one career suicide at the workplace. Lift others up in their absence as you would want them to do for you.

12. Make excuses less. Excuses are your fear speaking in the place of your power. Excuses are not the real you. Don’t put up with that. Procrastinate less and do what matters to you because you can. No excuses.

13. Have a bad attitude less. The less things went my way, the worse my attitude would get. Oh this was a hard habit to break but an essential one. Accept what happens. There’s always – ALWAYS – a silver lining. Your job is to find it.

14. Give your power away less. You have inside you the power to achieve all that you desire. Most of us go through life denying its existence or trading it for fear, for shame, for guilt or for excuses. Do less of that. A whole lot less. Believe more that there is this power inside you, hide it less and feed it more love and energy. You will meet a new you before you know it.

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6 Lessons from Disney Movies

I Love You

  • Basically, however you feel on the inside, you wind up acting upon  – and wanting to make others feel. So, if you’re angry on the inside – you’ll act out in anger – and wind up making others feel angry. If you feel loving on the inside –you’ll want to do loving actions – and make others feel loved.Meaning? If there’s someone who’s mean to you – a bully – you should know it’s because they feel bad inside themselves – angry inside themselves.
  • Those who have received little love will offer only what they have if they don’t cultivate good behavior and values. All those characters who are mean in Disney movies, don’t have a lot of love in their lives – and so they choose seeking power, to try to make up for lack of love. Whenever you choose power over love you will never find true happiness.
  • Bad Disney characters treat even their friends badly and consequently their friends don’t love them continuing thus the circle.
  • Thus, having little love for others or themselves, they all start to feel jealous, to talk about not loving who they are – as they are. As a result of not having love – they pursue power – to try to fill themselves up inside. But power is like junk food for the spirit. Love is like healthy food for the spirit. Power might feel tasty and good in the moment – but it will never be satisfying – never fill you up.
  • Yep, no matter how much power you get – you will always feel empty. And you look for more and more. But because power is like junk food, the more you get, the sicker you feel inside – not happier.
  • In contrast, the good characters seek love – not power. And the more love these good characters get – the more loving friends they enjoy – and loving acts they do – the happier they become – and the more self-fulfilled they feel.
  • Love is the ultimate super power. And teamwork is another super power. When you join loving forces with those you love, you can accomplish lots – like all the good characters in Disney movies get to enjoy.
  • All the bad characters in Disney movies are always jealous of something that someone else has. The evil characters never take time to find out what their “true inner power” might be ( their “true inner passion”).
  • Because these bad characters feel as if they don’t have a “true inner power” – they try to take power from others. They particularly like to take power from those who are “in their true power” – the good characters who have some special inner power (aka: a passion for singing, a passion for a special love connection, a passion for swimming, the ability to grow magical hair.)
  • In contrast, the good characters in these films take the time to fully step into their own true power – so they have no desire to take power.  The good characters are focused on following their heart’s calling (singing, swimming, spending loving time with soul mates and soul friends, going towards the light in a distant village) And when these good characters take the time to pursue their own “true inner power” (their heart’s calling) they ironically wind up tapping into an increased sense of ” inner power” –thereby increasing self love and happiness.
  • Meaning? When you follow your heart’s calling,  you wind up becoming your most powerful self.  You don’t need to take power from others if you can tap into your own inner power.
  • Power’s okay to want to – as long as you are loving in your use of it – and use your power for good not evil, to make people happy otherwise no one would benefit . As Spiderman admits, “with great power comes great responsibility. “
  • Don’t just listen to what others tell you – watch their actions: look at how they treat those around them.  If they’re mean to their  “so called friends” – then that’s a warning they might be mean to you.
  • It’s important to give people a chance to learn lessons and change their bad ways– if a mistake is made  – and someone acts badly.
  • In fact, many of the good people/mermaids/mermen in these films made mistakes. They didn’t act as their highest best self. But they all apologized for their bad behavior – looked for the lesson to be learned – and expressed wanting to grow from their mistakes. They even followed up their apology with a positive action which showed they learned their lesson – and were choosing not to do this bad behavior anymore.
  • Meaning? Even if somebody does something bad – it doesn’t necessarily mean they are forever bad. Also – even if YOU do something bad – it does not mean YOU are forever bad. Each of us can act badly at times – make mistakes –or act badly. What’s most important is to always want to learn and grow from any misbehavior.


Live in the Moment

12339_558695824167375_724698954_n“I found out recently that my friend’s brother had passed away rather quickly from advanced stage cancer.

Whenever I hear about a death, it really makes me think about how precious our time here on Earth is. It makes me think about my life, and if I will have any regrets should I end up leaving so suddenly.

I guess times like these can serve as a reminder to live a life without regrets.”by Atidecream

 Leo Babauta says:

“This morning I had a ton of work to do, and I felt the anxiety building, the moment I woke up and started thinking about all that work.

Instead of getting moving, I watched my anxiety. It’s an interesting feeling of rising panic, of adrenaline shooting from my chest outward. My mind was racing, my heart was beating fast.

I’ve learned to deal with it, so that while it still comes up, I now have trust that I’ll be fine. And that, in turn, helps it to go away sooner.

So what do you do when you’re overwhelmed and have a crapload of work to do?

Here are the practices that work for me. I offer them to you in hopes that they’ll help you.

1. Trust in the moment. Anxiety is usually a fear (or a bunch of fears) about the future, which is pretty normal. But what this really is … is a lack of trust in the future.

Actually nothing really bad will happen to me in the future if I act consistent with my principles so I trust the present moment, and trust that things will work out.

Try this: look at the moment you’re in. Look around you, look inward at yourself. Basically, this moment is fine. If it weren’t, you’d probably be in an ambulance instead of reading a Zen Habits post.

If this moment is fine, the next one will probably be too. And the one after.

2. Meditate for a few minutes. Just sit still for 3 minutes, and pay attention to the breath, to your body, to the sounds around you. Keep coming back to these things in the present when your mind wanders.

3. Make a short list. With a lot of work to do, it can be overwhelming. So I should focus on the most important. What will make the most difference today? Not just the semi-urgent emails, but the tasks that mean the most to my life and career.This tends to be about 3-5 things per day.

4. Single-task. The best of my ability, I stay with the present task instead of allowing myself to constantly switch.

5. Set intentions. What do I hope to accomplish? What’s my motivation? This helps me to understand the Why of the task, and keeps me motivated when things get hard.

 “To help my readers with a problem” is a much better reason than, “Because it’s on my list” or “Because I got an email asking me to do it”. I might do the task either way, but with a solid intention, I’m more focused, more motivated.

6. Realize you’re already there. Often we’re rushing to get somewhere. But where are we going? Will we be happier when we get there? Is that place better than where we already are?

I’ve found that no, it’s not any better. Where we already are is just as great. This moment is just as good as wherever we’re rushing off to. We’ve already arrived. So I smile, and appreciate the moment, and this makes the current task not a stepping stone to something better, but something great in and of itself.

7. Keep a stateless mindset. When we rush through a lot of tasks, they tend to accumulate in our heads.

These cost a lot of energy so by letting go of past and future tasks, and just focusing on the current task, we can be less stressed and burdened throughout the day. Read more.

8. Let go of finishing your list or inbox. Set a schedule and try to respect it. I practice letting go, and allow some emails to remain in my inbox, and some tasks to remain for tomorrow.

These are the things I try to practice. I don’t always get them right, and I mess up constantly. But when I remember to do these practices, my day is much better, I’m more focused, and my stress levels drop dramatically.”

source: and Atidecream